What has everybody been up to? It certainly seems like anal is the hottest item on the sex menu these days. But if you've never done it before, anal sex can be That said, it certainly doesn't have to be if you know exactly how to prepare for anal sex. Because the anus isn't naturally lubricated like the vagina, you're going to want to rely on a silicone lubricant when trying anything anal, including sex toys, butt plugs, and dildos. If you're new to anal sex, then you might want to start small as a way to ease yourself into the actual act. A butt plug, for example, can help you work your way up to a penis and it will minimize your chances of tearing which, yes, can happen. Fingers with latex gloves and anal beads are also solid ways to introduce anal play. Evan Goldstein , D. If you feel pain during anal sex , then you should stop — no questions asked, says Stacy Tessler Lindau, M.
1. Stock up on lube.
Anal sex can feel really good if you do it right , but it turns out butt play could have a seriously nasty side effect. According to a new study published in The American Journal of Gastroenterology , anal sex is linked to an increased risk in fecal incontinence you know, pooping your pants in both women and men. For the study, researchers at the University of Alabama at Birmingham Department of Medicine analyzed data from the National Health and Nutrition Examination Surveys, which included 4, adults ages 20 to 69, and they found that 37 percent of women said they had had anal sex compared to approximately five percent of dudes. Sadly, these ladies are more likely to experience fecal incontinence once a week than women who said they don't engage in anal sex, say the researchers. Overall, the rates of fecal incontinence were higher in women who reported having anal sex 9. Men who reported having anal sex had a higher instance of butt drip than men who said they didn't, too.
Backdoor entry is a deal-breaker for many women — a no-way, no-how, entirely off-limits scenario. Still, more than a third of women For some women, like me, anal sex can be a mind-blowing addition to the bedroom. Anal sex has always been a welcome precursor to vaginal penetration and other below-the-belt play. The key, for me, is to have a patient partner — one whom I trust. Oh, and plenty of lube. For me to engage in anal sex, I need to be fully relaxed, lubed, and ready. Anne Hodder , ACS, a multi-certified sex and relationships educator, says a successful anal experience is most often the result of communication, relaxation, preparation, lubrication, and at least initially gentle stimulation.
Everything about anal sex is awkward. It's not something that most people have a ton of experience doing, so when it does happen there's a lot of, "Um, is this it? We'd used a lot of lube and were really getting into it until we noticed a horrible smell. Instant buzzkill! My partner pulled his penis out quickly and got in the shower to rinse off. He was almost crying as all that liquid poop washed away from him while I was still cleaning off the mattress as I tried not to throw up. This forever cured me of my need for anal sex. Unfortunately, I had forgotten that I had stopped by the Indian lunch buffet earlier that day and feasted upon chana masala and palak paneer, and I accidentally pooped on his bed after we did anal.