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1. Men are interested in sexual variety.
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And now I'm terrified. Every time he eyes up my butt I want to grab the nearest chastity belt. I kid, I kid. But seriously, one of the keys to anal is to be relaxed and totally game for it, which it doesn't sound like you are. You need to take the pressure off. Doesn't matter if you've been dating for a week or married for ten years, you should never feel like you have to do something in bed that you're not comfortable with. Pure and simple. So maybe tell the bf he needs to think of your butt as a beautiful sculpture at a museum; he can look all he wants, but he can't touch. Anal sex, like sushi and socialism, is not for everyone.
At its most basic, men crave novelty more than women
The facts are this; anal sex can be enjoyable, if done the right way. Information on anal sex is one of those questions as a clinical sexologist I get asked quite often about. The facts are this; anal sex can be enjoyable , if done the right way. When talking about anal sex it is about allowing that delicate part of the body to be penetrated, this is not just physical but emotional as well. If it is a wonderful experience for a woman, she can even have multiple orgasms from anal sex, but on the flip side if it is not done correctly she may never want to try it again. The muscle on the rim of the anus and the inside of the anus needs to be slowly relaxed before penetration. Forcing any object in the anus when the muscle is tight is going to be painful; the skin on the outside is also delicate and can be torn. The anal muscles need time to relax, which means that the mind also has to be relaxed too. When the muscle is relaxed penetration will happen easily, and feel enjoyable. If you experience pain then slow down the penetration until the mind and body can relax again.
If I had a nickel for the number of times someone has approached me on the street, grabbed me by the shoulders, and shouted, "FRANK! Primarily because people don't ever recognize me on the street, and also because that's a strange question to lead with. But the point still stands that there's a male obsession with the butt hole that women, especially women who aren't into anal stimulation, don't understand. Here's why guys are so into it. It feels completely different than vaginal sex. It's like this: What if you found out your partner had a second penis that they never used for sex, and you knew that this penis would give you a different sensation during intercourse? Wouldn't you want to try that? Except your partner says he doesn't want to do it that way because it's gross because he uses that penis to poop.