Then, do any of the above morsels of advice matter. That I will be expected to be a full time single parent most of the time. Or, if I'm at work, even though I'm constantly busy, even if I wasn't, I can't just pull my phone out and call--i'm at work. So when our children bring home a potential mate that has cultural, racial, religious or other big differences then our child, our concerns immediately flare up. I don't drive and we live far away from our family. I know people should not get married if they can't accept each other as they are. Spending a lifetime single is not something most people would choose to do, but fear of being forever single should never be a deciding factor in entering a marriage, lest serious problems go unaddressed before serious commitments are made. RUN like the wind.
There's a ton of crazy in what we were taught all our lives. I suggest to run as it will not get better. Want to add to the discussion.
Like it was mentioned above, see how she deals some of the issues now and if she can't handle it, it might be better to find someone else. Good luck to you. That is a reality you can't change. If we can say them together, great; if not. Of course we are talking abt kids and marriage all the time.
I really hadn't considered a lot of the points people have brought up. That said, there are also a lot of pricks inside the church, who fully deserve membership. The church will be in your bedroom, finances, and all your decisions. Do you drink alcohol. You can watch them all in about a half an hour and you'll know almost everything you need to know.
